Relationship and Divorce Support Group
Beneath, around, even within the cacophonous chaos of
your life disintegrating, something infinitely powerful and
surpassingly sweet is whispering to you - Martha Beck
your life disintegrating, something infinitely powerful and
surpassingly sweet is whispering to you - Martha Beck
What and why?
Relationship challenges can feel a lot like traveling down a long, dark tunnel. No matter where you are in the process, it’s easy to feel like you’re all alone with no one to turn to. If you’re in the midst of this difficult transition, group coaching can be just the lifeline you’re looking for. It can point you toward the light at the end of the tunnel and help you cope with the challenges of this difficult season of your life. You will experience the support of your peers, hope and enthusiasm as you develop more clarity about surviving your challenges and thriving in your new life.
I have lived through the trials of divorce and experienced the gifts of wisdom and growth that can result. I have created a support group in Midrand Estates, Gauteng to help you get unstuck and move forward to clarify and attain your right life no matter where in the divorce process you are.
We meet on a weekly basis (every Wednesday evening) to discuss various relationship and divorce topic's, including:
My aim it to teach and develop you, in a non-judgmental, respectful, responsible, supportive, and positive environment, to help you help yourself during your challenge. You will learn proven tools and skills that will benefit you for the rest of your live.
I firmly believe that choosing to know yourself leads to understanding your Core Being. Following your Core Being leads to lasting fulfillment and happiness.
I invite you to contact me to find out more about the venue, time, etc. if you are interested in joining the group.
Myles
I have lived through the trials of divorce and experienced the gifts of wisdom and growth that can result. I have created a support group in Midrand Estates, Gauteng to help you get unstuck and move forward to clarify and attain your right life no matter where in the divorce process you are.
We meet on a weekly basis (every Wednesday evening) to discuss various relationship and divorce topic's, including:
- understanding your emotions and coping with grief
- reshaping your thinking
- reviewing your beliefs and challenging your limiting beliefs
- understand your value and values
- understanding attachment styles
- discovering new awareness and developing successful planning strategies
- creating healthy support networks
- practical support, tips and advice
My aim it to teach and develop you, in a non-judgmental, respectful, responsible, supportive, and positive environment, to help you help yourself during your challenge. You will learn proven tools and skills that will benefit you for the rest of your live.
I firmly believe that choosing to know yourself leads to understanding your Core Being. Following your Core Being leads to lasting fulfillment and happiness.
I invite you to contact me to find out more about the venue, time, etc. if you are interested in joining the group.
Myles
Additional information
This section briefly describe some detail regarding the points listed above.
Understanding your emotions
During challenging times we all react differently. Here we focus on how to deal with, not suppress, the emotional roller coaster you are on. You will focus on techniques to help you relax and how to understand, accept and manage the process of grief.
Shaping your thinking
We have but full control over one thing in life, our mind. Furthermore, we are what we think. Therefore, thinking at the level of willingness, acceptance and reason helps you deal with your challenges and will improve your your quality of life. However, to elevate or improve your thinking requires you to understand typical levels of consciousness. Understanding levels of consciousness gives us an opportunity to grow and experience life differently.
Challenging your beliefs
We all have a set of values and beliefs that define us and often during times of extreme challenge we add additional beliefs to our already full stack. Our beliefs generally come in two flavours: beliefs that serve us, and limiting beliefs. Especially during challenges we tend to add and focus on limiting beliefs, i.e. those things we decide or design to protect us but could just as easily take us further away from peace and happiness. During this session we develop techniques that will help you question your beliefs in order to determine whether they serve and support you or challenge and limit you. The obvious aim is to remove or mitigate limiting beliefs while focusing on serving beliefs.
Understand your own value and your hierarchy of values
Few people ever learn to accept themselves and value themselves correctly. Socrates stated that to "Know Thyself" was the most important guiding principle in life. Valuing yourself, and others, starts with understanding yourself. In order to understand yourself we will look at your hierarchy of values (i.e. your power and standards in terms of your spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, familial, social and physical life-dimensions) and how your essential self (i.e. your 'heart' mind) and social self (i.e. your rational or thinking mind) govern your life.
We will also focus on communication styles and conflict management, a real approach to relationships, etc. in the context of the hierarchy of values. My aim here is to educate in order to find peace, acceptance, and love for yourself and others. I believe what Lao Tzu said: he who knows others is wise but he who knows himself is enlightened.
Understanding attachment stylesThe science of adult attachment predicts, with a great deal of accuracy, how people will behave in romantic relationships and whether they will be well matched - on the basis of their “attachment style”: Anxious, Avoidant or Secure.
Discovering new awareness
The process of divorce, when children are involved, requires new thinking and a new approach to finances, maintenance, the relationship with your ex- spouse, paternal and maternal roles and responsibilities, managing conflict, managing 'competition', managing the extended family, managing new relationships or marriages, etc. We will spend a couple of weeks discussing these topics and interacting around them. There is no one successful strategy to dealing with these matters, but the aim is not to provide this. It is rather to allow people to formulate their own solutions through discussion and support from the entire group and through the exchange of strategies that proved successful to other people, i.e. strategies that served both the divorcees and the children.
The other items
Part of a support group is to provide support, caring and practical advice. The group provides this by the principles, or framework, outlined above, i.e. non-judgmental, respectful, responsible, etc. Roughly half of each session will be devoted to practical and supportive discussions.
I hope you will be joining us.
Myles
Understanding your emotions
During challenging times we all react differently. Here we focus on how to deal with, not suppress, the emotional roller coaster you are on. You will focus on techniques to help you relax and how to understand, accept and manage the process of grief.
Shaping your thinking
We have but full control over one thing in life, our mind. Furthermore, we are what we think. Therefore, thinking at the level of willingness, acceptance and reason helps you deal with your challenges and will improve your your quality of life. However, to elevate or improve your thinking requires you to understand typical levels of consciousness. Understanding levels of consciousness gives us an opportunity to grow and experience life differently.
Challenging your beliefs
We all have a set of values and beliefs that define us and often during times of extreme challenge we add additional beliefs to our already full stack. Our beliefs generally come in two flavours: beliefs that serve us, and limiting beliefs. Especially during challenges we tend to add and focus on limiting beliefs, i.e. those things we decide or design to protect us but could just as easily take us further away from peace and happiness. During this session we develop techniques that will help you question your beliefs in order to determine whether they serve and support you or challenge and limit you. The obvious aim is to remove or mitigate limiting beliefs while focusing on serving beliefs.
Understand your own value and your hierarchy of values
Few people ever learn to accept themselves and value themselves correctly. Socrates stated that to "Know Thyself" was the most important guiding principle in life. Valuing yourself, and others, starts with understanding yourself. In order to understand yourself we will look at your hierarchy of values (i.e. your power and standards in terms of your spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, familial, social and physical life-dimensions) and how your essential self (i.e. your 'heart' mind) and social self (i.e. your rational or thinking mind) govern your life.
We will also focus on communication styles and conflict management, a real approach to relationships, etc. in the context of the hierarchy of values. My aim here is to educate in order to find peace, acceptance, and love for yourself and others. I believe what Lao Tzu said: he who knows others is wise but he who knows himself is enlightened.
Understanding attachment stylesThe science of adult attachment predicts, with a great deal of accuracy, how people will behave in romantic relationships and whether they will be well matched - on the basis of their “attachment style”: Anxious, Avoidant or Secure.
- People with a Secure attachment style (just over 50% of the population) are warm and loving, and relationships come naturally to them. They are great at communicating their needs and feelings.
- People with an Anxious attachment style (about 21% of the population) love to be very close to their partner and have the capacity for a lot of intimacy. However, they often fear that their partner does not want to be as close as they would like and can be very sensitive to small fluctuations in their partner’s moods.
- People with an Avoidant attachment style (25%) feel the need to maintain their independence. Even though they want to be in a relationship, they tend to keep their partner at arm’s length.
Discovering new awareness
The process of divorce, when children are involved, requires new thinking and a new approach to finances, maintenance, the relationship with your ex- spouse, paternal and maternal roles and responsibilities, managing conflict, managing 'competition', managing the extended family, managing new relationships or marriages, etc. We will spend a couple of weeks discussing these topics and interacting around them. There is no one successful strategy to dealing with these matters, but the aim is not to provide this. It is rather to allow people to formulate their own solutions through discussion and support from the entire group and through the exchange of strategies that proved successful to other people, i.e. strategies that served both the divorcees and the children.
The other items
Part of a support group is to provide support, caring and practical advice. The group provides this by the principles, or framework, outlined above, i.e. non-judgmental, respectful, responsible, etc. Roughly half of each session will be devoted to practical and supportive discussions.
I hope you will be joining us.
Myles